Just a little insight. I rarely attend church. What's my excuse? I don't care to attend. But I decided to go along for the Trunk or Treat.
We went inside the gym for a few to let the kids play on the bouncy things. Said hi to a few folks then I went outside when they got ready to serve pizza. There were hundreds of people there so I went out to talk to a friend's husband.
I went over to the friend's Scion, where he had the trunk open and was talking with his new father in-law. I asked how they both were and asked the hubby what was new.
"Same old same old" he replied.
He asked what I had been up to and I gave him the "same old same old" bit. Then the father in-law put in his 2 cents.
"Yep same old stuff, just sitting around." He turns and says to his son in-law and says "that's all he does is sit around all day."
For somebody I have only met a half a dozen times sure knows how to push my fucking buttons.
"Yeah, sit around all day buddy" was the extent of my smart ass comment before I turned and walked away.
So it's this I wonder. What does he really know about me? And where does he get his information.
Seeing that I don't attend church often as Kindra he feels inclined to feel I just sit around. Or maybe she tells her friends at church all I do is sit around.
Does he know why I sit around so much?
Because I can't work.
I don't even think he's worthy of hearing the story of why that is. Maybe he knows somewhat of what has happened to me.
Does he know how well I can cook? Maybe he's mad because he's never been over to eat at my house.
Does he know that there's a hot meal almost every night of the week, and Kindra, the kids, and I all sit down as a family to eat?
Does he know that I sit down and color with the kids. Does he know that my kids love to make their own dinosaurs and color them?
Does he know I try to teach my kids responsibility and routine. Each school day I make them eat breakfast, take their vitamins, and shower. After they shower they know to brush their teeth then get dressed. Does he know this?
Does I sit and read books with the kids while they play Barbies?
Does he know that I make sure they brush their teeth before I tuck them in at night?
He must!!!!!!!!!!!
Because I go to church so often to mingle with people who like to pass judgment on others.
Years ago a man like that might have got bitch slapped for that kind of comment.
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I agree, that was a hurtful remark and totally uncalled for! People can be very insensitive...some moreso than others! I have found this to be true in my life too. As hard as it is, try not to take it personally. It sounds as though this is just this guys general personality and I am sure he has offended many people in his day and will offend many more before his life is over! Who knows what he meant by it or why he said it. You can only speculate. I'm sorry you had to deal with that! You are a good dad and it's obvious that you love your family so very much! Let this guy think what he wants...you and Kindra and the girls (and anybody else who knows you!) know, love and appreciate you for who you REALLY are!
ReplyDeleteFrom what I hear Aimee, this guy has a habit of just shooting his mouth off and being sarcastic. The pastor at church was talking about something one day and the same guy made a reference to porn during service, the pastor got really heated and told him "that's enough out of you."
ReplyDeleteI guess he just doesn't know how to control his mouth or when to be appropriate/inappropriate. I didn't make a big deal out of it because it was a church function so I blew it off. Now if it was some other place or some other time, I would've made him own up to his comment.
I think you did absolutely the right thing by not making a big deal out of it. It would have made matters much worse! Just remember that this guy obviously has a screw loose and makes it a habit to offend EVERYONE, not just you! Maybe dwelling on that fact will make you want to kill him just a little less. LOL
ReplyDeleteI came to the conclusion that the guy is just a turd....I'm over it now that I've hear how he is.
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